First Impression Blunders You Have To Forgive
Dating is all about getting to know someone; warts and all. I much prefer that someone shows me their honest imperfections than falsified flawlessness. To that end, there are first impression blunders people make that you should just forget about.
They’re late
Chronic tardiness is annoying and, depending on how punctual you are and how much it bothers you, can totally be grounds for ceasing dating someone; after awhile. Don’t immediately bash a dude because he’s 20 minutes late for your first date. It might actually be a specific one-time situation. You always want to make sure something is truly a habit before you go in for the dump.
Chatty Cathy or Silent Stewart
Someone who talks too much or just not enough on a first date is likely suffering from a severe case of nerves. Most of us reach back to our 6-year-old conversation skills when we’re with someone who makes us nervous. Of course there’s no guarantee that things will improve, but on the first date, take someone’s chatter or lack thereof as a compliment.
You want to make your date a tad nervous. Let’s just hope that it wasn’t too painful to sit through dinner having to either do all the listening or all the talking. If you can see the charm and attraction underneath all the nerves then that warrants a second date. Hopefully the second time around their nerves will have quieted and their true personality will shine through.
Calling you another name
Some people get really bothered by this one and honestly, I don’t really get it. I mean, superficially, sure, I can see being offended. But it doesn’t take more than an ounce of reasonable, un-self-conscious thinking to realize that it’s not a personal offence.
When someone doesn’t really know you yet, that’s just the thing: they don’t know you. Maybe he/she momentarily thought that your hair color was just like their friend Sally’s and in the next second, they called you Sally by mistake. These are names that are programmed into their brains already. Your name is not. Not yet, at least. If someone calls out someone else’s name in bed after 6 months of dating, that’s one thing. A slip on the first date? A little funny and completely forgivable.
Drinking too much
Yes, I’ve done this and yes, he never called me again. Sigh. I’m intelligent, charming and witty and he held it against me. I’m not an alcoholic, I was just incredibly nervous.
But he jumped to conclusions on the first date. There are just times that I need a drink (or five) to take the edge off; let it go already. The thing is, if your date is going to get stupidly drunk in public every time you go out then you’ll learn that soon enough. But everyone deserves the benefit of the doubt.
This post was developed by the staff of the Datepad.com internet dating company where you can find hundreds more helpful dating posts.
